Thirteen Things….A Message To My Children


This was posted on Facebook recently by my friend Svenya, for her son, Tanyan’s 13th birthday.

Kieran and Tanyan are basically besties and as Kieran is turning 13 in May, I asked Svenya if I could steal it and post it on my blog.  It resonated so deeply and is something we can constantly affirm to our children, no matter what their ages……

13 Things I want you to know…

  •  Parents don’t know everything, but they know more than you can imagine.
  • It’s okay not to fit in, don’t try and be someone you’re not.
  • Whatever arguments your parents have, it is never your fault.
  • Try your best.  Always.
  • Mistakes don’t define you, even if they define a certain moment in your life.
  • Feeling angry, sad or powerless at times is okay.  Don’t fight those feelings.  Find a way to get to a better place.
  • Nobody will remember 20 years from now whether you were picked first or last to be on a team, don’t sweat it.
  • Needing is different from wanting, learn the difference and don’t forget it.
  • Don’t be scared of failure, all setbacks have the potential to become something positive, even if they hurt.
  • Hang in there – when it gets dark, it really is the darkest before dawn.
  • I will always be an arms length away, even if you want to be alone.
  • Choose your friends wisely, the best ones will bring you so much joy, the worst will bring you down.
  • I love you.  No matter what you do.  No matter what you say.  I might not always agree with you and we might not always like each other all the time, but I will always love you for being you

And lastly, don’t stop shifting my crown and never stop asking me for random hugs and kisses.

I love you more than all the sand on all the beaches